ok, couple of questions;
where would the charge circuit come from? if it comes from the common on the main switch then would it not be the same to put the vsr between the house power leads and the forward battery? I only say this because I believe those existing cables a capable of the current needed for battery charging and running the other forward items . imo the 2#6 at a rating of 55 amps each and fused at 40 each should not break a sweat at even 60 amps.
in what situation do you see 1 battery discharging into another? do you mean in use or a failure mode? I see the additional battery as just a 2 battery bank in parallel essentially . as I said before I did plan a breaker and a on /off switch for the forward battery between the battery and the house power busses . although manual this seems similar to what you suggested w/ the vsr, correct?
really appreciate your thoughts and comments.
Adding the ACR off of the lines going forward might work... the issue I see is that most of those relays work on sensed voltage. I.e., when the voltage at the ACR/VSR is above 13.6VDC, the relay closes, providing charge current to the auxiliary battery (the forward battery, in your case). Depending on where in your system you locate the ACR, due to voltage drop in the cables coming forward you might not see the voltage needed to close the relay.
If I were going to install the system with a forward battery, I'd locate the ACR at the stern, coming directly off the cranking battery through a fuse/circuit breaker as per the MFR. That way, with the engine running, it'll see the voltage to close the relay. Run the positive charge cable up to the bow to charge the auxiliary battery. Run the negative cable from the bow back to the negative bus. Make the connections for the windlass to the positive/negative terminals of the aux battery, with the appropriate circuit protection as per the windlass MFR. If you wanted to add a cross connection to provide power to the house buses in an emergency, I would run another line, through an appropriately sized CB and an on/off switch, from the forward battery back to the dash and tie it into the appropriate bus bars there.
As far as running the two batteries in a parallel configuration... I don't feel comfortable commenting on why I think that's a bad idea, other than on the surface it FEELS like a bad idea. Something about attempting to parallel two batteries on either ends of the boat through existing distribution cabling just does not seem right. Furthermore, I'd imagine the size cabling you'd need to make that arrangement work with minimal voltage loss between the batteries would likely exceed what you've got now, and the size of the new cables would make running ones solely for that purpose impractical. If I get the chance I'll do some more research, run some calculations, and see if I can get you a more specific answer. But I'd want to triple check before planning on doing that to make sure I'm not going to mess anything up.
Again, to reiterate, if it were me doing this install, I'd try to eliminate having the forward battery at all and just run heavier cables to the bow to run the winch motor. But if you're set on the forward battery idea, these are just some ideas. Furthermore, make sure you secure the HELL out of that battery; it's going to see some pretty drastic dynamic loads up there.